If you are coming from Building Heavenly Bridges (BHB), WELCOME and if you are finding me for the first time and looking for support after a loss, then please check me out at my grief/loss blog!

This blog is a series of anecdotes from our life after losing our first child, a stillborn daughter, then going on to birth the two other lights of our lives!

Bear is 6: serious, organized, my cruise director and my time keeper.

The Comedian is 4: She is pure comedy always doing something unintentionaly funny that I attempt to put into words.

Enjoy our stories, conversations, and delights as we embrace the lives of our second and third daughters without ever negating our first.

Children's Widsom - Quote of the week...

Children's Widsom - Quote of the week...
"I Wish Emma Was Alive Because I Would Tell Her Where The Bathroom Is"

Monday, June 29, 2009

Representative Photos of Our Vacation

"You have a choice" we said more times than I can count to the four amazing kids with us on vacation. "You can choose to be frustrated and dissapointed by the rain OR you can choose to embrace this experience for what it is and have FUN!
We did the latter! Here are a few represtative shots of our week at the cape. More to come...when I get permission from the other mother!

When we arrived the sun was still shining...apparently it had been for days before our arrival. We scooped up our beach stuff and took full advantage -- it was our only sunny day.

Comedian Making a "Sand Angel" -- Only she would think to do such a thing!

Bear hauling water to their 'Beach City'!

These told the rest of the story...

We did yoga...

LOTS of painting!

Puzzles, Playdough, Ballet, Exercise and more!!

And...just because I can't resist. Here is a photo from our LAST MORNING (notice the sun peeking out) of the flower boxes my friend planted to thank my parents for letting us use the house. Comedian is thrilled...sporting her "Grandma - looking over my glasses) look!

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

What Happens When Butterscotch Isn't Feeling So Buttery

Nana once gave us a book about Alexander, the very-prone-to-accident boy who was covered in bandaids by the end of the week. My favorite line of the whole book read:, "Alexander - you pip, you can't eat ice cream with a band-aid on your lip!"

Needless to say, both Butterscotch and Comedian had a rough morning.

Monday, June 15, 2009

Packing A Picnic Basket

"Momma, you seem a little bit sad and a little bit happy today. You were really happy on your birthday...
I know! Let's have a picnic -- at Emma's grave. Yeah! We'll pack sanwiches, carrots, raisins, and cake! She really wants us to have a picnic at she's grave today. Will that make you happy Momma?"

It makes me sad that she can read me so well. But it makes me so very happy that she views Emma's grave as a place of solace, a place where 'Momma can get happy again'.

The rain just plain makes me mad. No picnic today....

Friday, June 12, 2009


Last night's birthday-cake eating-conversation:

Bear: 'Mummy did you like my present?"

Me: (gushing) "Oh Yes! I loved it! In fact, I loved it so much that I blogged about it."

Bear: (quizzical look - you can acutually see the wheels turning searching for a synonym to match) "Um, you blogged about it or you bragged about it? Bragged, right?"

Me and Hubby: (hysterically laughing, me so much that I couldn't answer - so he did) "Same thing honey...exactly the same thing!"

Clearly I don't use the B-word enough in this house.

Do your kids know about your blog? Do you talk about it with them and tell them what you posted?

Monday, June 8, 2009

Comedian's Theory on Eating After Death...

Her stream-of-consciousness self-chatter as she sets the table...

“We have four people in our family, but really we have five, but Emma doesn’t eat at the table but she eats outside because I gave her food but she at some of it but not all of it because she didn’t want to choke.”

Oh, and earlier...after she intentionally wrote on a library book with pen because she "couldn't find" any paper, she totally deadpanned me. "Well, I can't say sorry to the book because it doesn't talk."

Damn if she makes me laugh even when I shouldn't be...oh - and be sure to check out her wisdom quote of the week above! Sure to give you a chuckle too!!

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Show and Tell: A Recycled, Updated Post! "Leave with Five - Come Back With Two"

UPDATED: Due to lack of time, a Sunday School lesson to plan for a sub, 13 pages of prep reading to do for my interpreting job tomorrow, and two other rather labor intensive show and tells...I present a recycled post!

Our family meeting went well. The words came, then Comedian narrated, rationalizing the choice in her own 4-year-old-everything-makes-sense-because -I-said-it way. Bear crumbled - just as we knew she would.

The next morning was a little harder than I thought. Bear managed to rally for this picture. And, YES that is the makeshift chicken coop that Jer built when they hatched on New Years Day. Thank you for noticing - means you've been reading my various blogs a while! What - It isn't supposed to double as a makeshift cat carrier?? Oh, sorry...

The humane society ladies were wonderful. They even tolerated a crazy lady weilding a camera like a wedding photographer determined NOT to miss any part of the day!

Butterscotch seems very happy back home with us even if he is a bit lonely and acting stressed, like a recently weaned toddler, trying to convince Sally to let him nurse again. She having none of it!

And, just to keep the 'where did my family go' drama in high gear, tomorrow we drop off Sally-mama to be spayed. Poor little Butterscotch will have to go a whole night without her.

FUN CAT FACT: Did you know that the requirements for neutering boys are, reached 3 pounds and their testicles have descended?

(HA! Google that!)
UPDATED TO ADD: Butterscotch's you-know-whats are good and ready but at a weight of 2.7 pounds he'll have to weight for the neutering process to commence. Also, he did quite well while Sally-Mama had her sleepover at the vets, if you consider 'well' to mean he cried until one of us stayed downstairs with him so he could sleep on our chest. *awwwww*
More Show and Tell...HERE!